Life favors the specific ask and punishes the vague wish.
~ From Tools of the Titans, by Tim Ferris
If I had a time machine, like many of you I’d definitely use it to go back in time and redo or rethink certain major decisions in my life.
First and foremost, I’d use my time machine to take me back to life in college and I would begin a focused effort of daily meditations, chiefly aimed and trying to discover who I truly am and what I truly want.
Thinking back to my formative years, there was never any long-term plan. No grand vision. I was far too focused on the short term. How can I get paid or laid NOW?
I never had one True North. No specific goal for me to leverage to inform career, networking, and friendship decisions. No tangible vision of why I should focus on savings and not living with debt. No overriding ethos which directed any hobbies or outside interests.
And no surprise, this led me to spending my 20’s and 30’s moving really fast, but arriving everywhere slow.
So much wasted energy. So much wasted potential. So much wasted time.
Do I have regrets? Yes, a few.
By far the biggest one was in having a “vague wish” about the life I wanted to live, and not a specific ask about what I wanted from life and how I’ll achieve it.
It is said the best time to plant a tree was yesterday, the next best time to plant one is today. I try to keep that in mind as I still continue to zero in my specific ask. I’m getting closer. I can feel it circling around me, waiting for me to grab it. My trading, my work, my community, my friends, my choices are all beginning to line up, pointing me to True North.